What to Bring to Your First Divorce Consultation — And Why It Matters
Meeting with a divorce attorney for the first time can feel overwhelming — especially if you’re not sure what to expect. Whether you’re just starting to explore your options or already have legal documents in hand, showing up prepared can make a huge difference.
To help you get the most out of your consultation, here are four key things to bring — and why they’re important.
1. A List of Your Questions or Concerns
Why it matters:
Divorce can bring up a lot of uncertainty. Having a written list of questions — even if they seem minor — helps make sure you leave your consultation with more clarity than you came in with. Common concerns might include:
• “How is custody typically decided?”
• “What happens to our shared home?”
• “Can I obtain spousal support?”
Bringing your list ensures your concerns guide the conversation — not just legal jargon.
2. Basic Financial Information
Why it matters:
Your finances play a major role in the outcome of a divorce. Even a rough overview of your income, debts, and assets helps your attorney understand your situation early on.
You don’t need to bring spreadsheets — just gather:
• Recent pay stubs or income estimates
• Credit card or loan balances
• Big assets like homes, vehicles, or savings accounts
• Shared or separate accounts
Having this info upfront allows your attorney to begin identifying potential areas for negotiation or division.
3. Key Relationship and Family Dates
Why it matters:
Important dates create a legal timeline — and that timeline can impact decisions around property division, custody, and support. Some dates to bring include:
• Date of marriage
• Date of separation (if applicable)
• Children’s birthdays
• Date of any significant legal or financial events
Even if you’re unsure about exact dates, rough estimates are helpful. Your attorney can help fine-tune details later.
4. Any Court Documents or Legal Notices
Why it matters:
If you’ve already been served legal papers, received a summons, or filed anything yourself — bring it. These documents provide crucial context, especially if deadlines are approaching.
Common items to bring include:
• Divorce petitions
• Temporary custody or support orders
• Restraining orders
• Mediation agreements or notices
Your attorney can review these and explain what they mean in plain English — so you’re not left guessing.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to walk into your consultation with everything perfectly organized — that’s our job. But showing up with these essentials gives us a strong foundation to start protecting your future.
💡 Bonus tip: Don’t stress about “sounding legal” — just be honest, bring what you have, and we’ll take it from there.
📍 Need guidance? We’re here when you’re ready.
Book a consultation with NorthBay Family Law today and take the first step toward peace of mind.